Taking care of ourselves is not just another selfish act with a spiritual label.
It is possible to give ourselves compassion without being motivated by self love, because grasping for satisfaction is very different from learning to care for ourselves.
Without compassion, thoughts and actions are based on desire for egotistical or selfish gratification.
But genuine compassion, the antidote to ego, arises from a humble and fearless attitude of openness and generosity.
Gesture of Balance